This is my second post about our new Family Service Chore Manager Kit. I recommend reading the first post to read about how the system works before reading this post. Click on Part 1 to read the first installment.
In this post I will be talking about “Family Guidelines” which are included in this kit. These are the blessings, consequences and expectations that go along with our new chore system.
Here is a picture of the whole system hanging on the wall in our hallway next to the boys rooms. It is easily accessible and they see it everyday multiple times a day in walking to their rooms.
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One other Component – The Family Guidelines Sheet
The Family Guideline sheet was not only gone over in person with the boys but it also hangs with the chore system so they can always reference it if they have questions.
Here is what the family guideline sheet has on it:
What time and which chores need to be done in the morning before breakfast.
Rules surrounding that (I will get into in a bit)
What time and which chores need to be done in the evening before and after dinner
Instructions for our Star System which included blessings, and consequences.
The Star System
- Doing their own chores with a happy servants heart with no complaining or grumbling.
- Playing selflessly with each other.
- Re-doing someone elses chore who did a lazy job.
- Doing above and beyond service like seeing someone in need and anticipating how you can help them and following through, etc.
In the morning if the one of them does not finish their chores before breakfast they have a choice – they can either continue their chores to earn their stars and come to breakfast late or they can come to breakfast and forfeit their stars. We have breakfast at the same time every morning during the week and we start school at 9:00am every day so all morning stuff has to be done by then. The same rule applies to dinner. It works out well.
- A trip to get Ice Cream with Mommy or Daddy.
- A trip to get hot chocolate at a coffee shop with Mommy or Daddy.
- Their choice of an activity outside the house with Mommy or Daddy for two hours. This could be going to Toy’s R Us (not buying toys just looking), going to the park, whatever they want to do – within reason of course.
- If they are reminded to do the chore, it is now open for the sibling to do AND earn a star for doing it.
- Not doing their best work will cause the loss of one star. They must do 100% work or they don’t get “paid.”
- If there is any sign of a lazy job the person loses one star and the job is opened for the other person to do in which they are able to earn an extra star.
- If they are caught lying then they lose ALL of their stars for the day and we take other disciplinary action along with this. Lying is unacceptable here. Proverbs 12:22 says the Lord hates it and frankly, so do I.
- Disobedience, defiance, and disrespect, etc. my husband and I chose not to make this a part of the star system. We felt like these needed to be dealt with in a separate manner and were not directly related to family service. We actually love Doorposts products for dealing with these issues.